FALSE.
manners are a sign of respect for others and invites respect for yourself.
of course, there are times where it is difficult
to know the most respectful way to address a situation.
but an effort is always appreciated.
here is one example making an effort.
try to phrase requests in a manner that they are a request. not a demand.
for example:
INCORRECT:
"You're going to campus right? You can give me a lift."
this demand will usually be followed by an awkward silence.
CORRECT:
"Amanda, Would you mind giving me a lift to campus? I would appreciate it greatly."
this request will usually be followed by a simple yes or no,
cheerfully given, usually coupled with an explanation or an apology if necessary.
*end of rant*
p.s. i'm not usually a stickler for manners.
(although i always appreciate and respect *envy?*
those who have an understanding of the art)
just when dealing with young single men.
who make me slightly uncomfortable,
i would appreciate a little more respect.
(which is highly unusual-
according to my husband i am far too comfortable around single young men)
NEXT TIME-I might just EXPLAIN to him that he needs to ASK, rather than DEMAND.
But it won't change the fact that I am uncomfortable and don't want to give him a ride anyway.
What do I do? Can I say no? Is that unkind? I am willing to give rides to my other classmates.... It's not like he's going to do anything to me...
i'm such a wimp.
